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Post by Lucky13 » Thu Dec 28, 2006 7:01 am

Suppose you meet someone off the internet, and you find that you really like this person and they like you back, like this is the person you've been waiting for all your life..the two of you start dating through the net..is that real? can that be real? is there any hope that it could be the real deal? what would you do? :huh:

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Post by xZubdax » Thu Dec 28, 2006 12:08 pm

Hmm.. well thing is ive spoken to people about this alot.. its good to have a proper discussion on it..

Right.. well i was in a relationship on "Internet" for a good 9 Months!..

Now i know this sounds stupid.. buh it felt reall.. like really reall.. fair enough we never met.. and pictures tell a thousand lies.. buh i did sorta "fall in love".. it was a good realtionship.. buh it was "particulatly" fake!..

Yeah each word we spoke could of been a thousand lies.. buh isnt a relationship about trust?.. i quiet liked it.. end of the day.. we were together because of what we thought about each other..how we saw eachother.. not because he was good looking..(not that he wasnt!).. isnt that what a relation ships about?

well anyhow.. i did thing we'd tie the knot in the end:blink:.. turns out we didnt.. i agree to the saying B) "distances make relationships stronger" and i could easily say i would of changed my whole life to be with him.. buh some things change for the best?

it is reall..:blink: i have met a few people of the net.. a sister.. and yeah she'll always be a sister.. i love her loads.. and she means the world to me.. its even come to a stage where our families are getting to knwo each other..

then a best mate.. known him about a yearishh? B) see him 2-4 times a month.. and yeah i wouldnt let go off him for anything in teh world.. same goes for my long lost soul sister - twin!:blink:

& a few other people..:blink:

well like i said.. i wouldnt disagree.. B) yet ive had bad experiences of "net meetings" .. safety precautions if your younger then 16 then deffinately tell an adult before u go! :ph34r: B)

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Post by Brown Eyed Beauty » Thu Dec 28, 2006 2:37 pm

Great Topic!

Well a lot of things have o be taken into account when considering the "reality" of the relationship e.g. the motives of both people, the consequences they are in.

One thing i have to say is that you can't promise yourself to someone else when you've never seen them. That's just ludicrous because they can be doing "things" behind ur e-back and vice versa.

Of course sometimes these things work out, and the couple may end up getting married or whatever :unsure: But personally, I'd never go out with anyone over the net...you can meet them, and then possibly go out with them. You can't trust what comes from a person's fingertips online, as opposed to what actually comes from their mouth.

And, although this may sound completely and utterly shallow...LOOKS DO COUNT! No one wants to go out with someone they consider "ugly" and this is when opinion comes in.

* Beauty is in the eye of the beholder *

So someone who you find beautiful could be completely ugly in another person's eyes e.g. i don't know what's sp amazing about pretty boy Orlando Bloom but i know girls who would die to meet him <_< on the other hand i find sajid mahmood from England cricket team good-looking but others disagree.

So i-net dating? I'd say no i wouldn't be able to do that but some people might and i completely admire them for trusting their relationship enough but i wouldnt' do it myself.

ANYONE WHO CARES TO DISAGREE SPEAK UP :D THATS THE WHOLE POINT OF A DEBATE :)
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Post by AmIrRrRr » Thu Dec 28, 2006 4:34 pm

its a complicated topic seeing as ive bin init before..yup ive been involved in e-relationships and trust theres alot to think about..i mean can you totally trust that person..can you believe in them..do you know what theyre doing behind ya back.. :unsure: .. so you really got to consider before taking it into account...

i think if you really like that person..first have a look at them in person coz you might not find them attractive or vice versa and you or them may get hurt..(for more info look at brown eyes post :)) so at the end of the day the decisions totally yours..but just watch your self..and if your young then just watch ya back because you can be deceived..you could be talking to anyone..so always tell someone hwere ya going..but anyways it is complicated and it does happen and you just have to watch out..e-relationships do effect alot of people but through my experience id say meeting up is better than e-relationships..thats my experience..other people may have different opinions..and yep..saj mahmood is kool brown eyes :D hes ma best player.. B)
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Post by sxc desi guy » Thu Dec 28, 2006 6:32 pm

depends on what angle ur lookin at it, to some it may seem sad and pathetic, but to others it can be fun and even comforting, coz u can tell someone something onda net, n nt feel nervous etc after it coz dey can b hundreds of miles away, but den dey cud b peado's, personally i think its a gr8 way 2 meet new peeps, n evn possibily find the "one" if not then u'll jus hv 2 keep looking.
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Post by -MissS- » Thu Dec 28, 2006 7:48 pm

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It's easier to lie on the internet. </span>
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Post by AmIrRrRr » Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:39 pm

cant say i disagree more..
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Post by AmIrRrRr » Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:45 pm

;) sorry..cant say i agree more..but then again..thats not always the case..
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Post by xZubdax » Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:55 pm

Miss S it is.. :P I Agree! Totally!

Hmm.. Sexy Desi Guy.. you dont for the "one" they should come natrually! :ph34r:

Hmm.. me and Amirrr.. were just having a conversation and quiet frankly after a long and hard think.. dont you think you'd be better up meeting first.. from experience it does make relationships stronger.. especially if your miles and miles away.. you treasure the time yopu spend with someone.. where as e-net and phone.. it drifts off.. an becomes lame.. sometimes things and words run out..

I found one of the most precious people in my life on "E-Net" buh you know what.. i wasnt so sure at first.. and now i could honestly say.. im glad i went for this whole thing formm the begining..

Intresting Topic.. Let Me KNow what you think..

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Post by AmIrRrRr » Thu Dec 28, 2006 11:59 pm

yep that somes it up..meet the person..and make sure there capable of being someone 2 u..alotta things can happen over the net but should happen in reality..phone nd e net cant always describe a person..so u should no who u are talkin 2..nd that is by meeting them..nd thats only wen ur 101% confident their someone real..and incase of backup..take a strong guy/cousin/friend/ (if ur a girl) :D
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Post by TaZzY B » Fri Dec 29, 2006 12:05 am

Well.. I dont usually reply to forums but i thought i should to dis one seeing that i've had experience of this.

I've met someone off the net n started dating them, we are happily 2geva. Its sumtyms hard because u are not always with the person and cant express urself as much as u would like to. N it is also easier for things to come between u because u cnt sit n look into each others eyes n talk :$ ok ok i beta stop the romantic **** now :$

But i think u should reli get to no the person b4 u start dating them because it is alot easier for the other person to lie to u online. but u have to try n build trust n jus hope it aint broken.

I think it is important for u to regularly meet the person becuase it helps keep the relationship going becuase if u jus talk online there myt b a possibility that the love dies out n u get bored. I've seen that happen to ppl in the past. (DIDNT HAPPEN TO ME BTW, I THOUGHT I HAVE TO SAY THIS CUZ AM SURE MY GF WILL B READING THIS LOL. DNT WANT A BEATING LATER).

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Post by Zedzo » Fri Dec 29, 2006 4:02 am

Fwook all of yaalll Miss S is rite :D

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Post by cuzzy » Wed Oct 24, 2007 1:20 pm

this is a touchy subject and theres always going to be people who agree and disagree....lets just put it this way - tis different for everyone

i personally wouldn't date someone that i haven't seen in real life face to face kinda thing and to be honest i dont even know the reason why but it's just summat i wouldn't do...

most people look at Net dating is a negative way and i think thats not right because every experience is different... if you compared to people who have had relationships on the internet you will find that their outcomes will mostly likely be different?
But if you feel strong enough about someone then go for it :wink: cus at the end of the day tis your life and tis about experience so if it wasn't successful then you may not consider having a relationship online in the future:D
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Post by Brown Eyed Beauty » Wed Oct 24, 2007 1:58 pm

Cuzzy's right.. and think about it. More and more people are becoming obsessed with this E-World. If you can frigging buy a new house online, why not meet a potential partner?

There must be SOME SORT OF success in these situations or else organisations like shaadi.com or match.com would never have popped up and wouldn't be running successfully. :roll:
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Post by cuzzy » Wed Oct 31, 2007 1:42 am

yeah so awl you people out there who disagree come forward
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if you want to date someone it's fine to start off like not seeing each other...as time passes you can link up or w/e but if you think oh ama date dis lad for like three years and not see him then thats bit stupid really :?

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